It's only natural when grieving to retreat socially. Feeling ready to socialise again can take some people weeks, and others years. Take it one step at a time, and do what feels right for you.

As one of the UK's biggest and oldest friendly societies, we're no stranger to supporting people through difficult times. Our branches host regular social events online and in person, so if you feel ready to try out a new group or activity then we'd love to welcome you.

Feel free to:

  • Ring ahead of any events so you know what to expect. We could arrange for someone to be there to welcome you, or you could bring a friend or family member along.
  • Give us a try first before becoming a member. You've nothing to lose.
  • Try an activity that matches your interests and meet like-minded people.
  • Join us at one of our monthly online open days.

Moving forward with the loss of a partner


Anyone who has experienced grief knows it doesn’t follow rules – you may feel hopeful one day and be overcome with emotion the next. According to Dr Jennifer Wild, the key is moving forward with your grief and using it as your greatest strength.

Here for you when you're ready

We've branches across the country. Take the first step and find out what events are of interest.

Bereavement support

We're not trained to offer specialist bereavement support. If at any stage you feel that your grief is having a permanent impact on your life and your mood, or you are struggling to cope, you should talk this through with your doctor, or with a bereavement support organisation.

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Being there for a friend

Maybe you've noticed that your friends are finding it hard to know what to say or do to help. Or maybe you're that friend who wants to be there for someone who's lost someone close. You might find this advice useful.

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Take any opportunity to mix with people. Don't say no. It will be hard, but it's worth it. I now have new, good friends that keep an eye on my wellbeing.

Jenny Atkin Oddfellows member

Joining your local Oddfellows group

Enjoying regular events and activities is just one of the many benefits to becoming a member of your local Oddfellows Branch.

From care and welfare advice, and support to special offers, opportunities to travel and 24/7 use of our historical archives – there's so many reasons to consider becoming part of your local friendlier society. *T&Cs apply to all financial benefits.

Benefits of membership
Real life
My story: Val Rider

How Val Rider, whose husband of 50 years died five years ago, feels the friendship and support of the Oddfellows helps her continue her adventures.

Everyone's welcome

Because friendships don’t start in empty rooms – the more people there are, the more magic happens. Watch our video and find out how Oddfellows membership is bringing a spark to people’s lives.